As part of a series of blogs to promote our incredible Eroticon speakers, today we’re chatting to Dami Olonisakin – aka @Oloni – a twenty-something award-winning blogger from London. She is also the Founder and Editor of simplyoloni.com, an online platform for discussions on sex and relationships. Dami is a relationship coach and has given over thousands of women all over the world advice on their love and sex lives through phone calls, emails and her popular Ask Oloni page. She has been featured in publications such as The Sun, The Daily Mail, Cosmopolitan and also been named as part of BBC’s Girls’ Champions.
Dami writes about almost everything, but specialises in relationships and lifestyle. She was voted the best sex and relationship blogger of 2015 by Cosmopolitan UK Magazine and her blog was voted top one of the UK’s top Dating blogs of 2017. Her past books and blogs have helped empower several young women to rethink the situation they’re involved in romantically and sexually. Oloni also hosts a sex positive live show called Laid Bare, aimed at women who are opinionated and want to have their say on sexuality.
You’ve probably also seen her #DateChallenge, which went viral earlier this year as she encouraged women to ask men they fancied on dates – with some very impressive results!
What inspired you to start working in your field?
Working in this field was an accident. One I’m grateful for, but the true inspiration came from my passion of being that friend who enjoyed talking about sex nonstop and wanting to be open about it, especially as every other woman around me wasn’t. I’m inspired by my friends, the tv series Sex and The City, which admittedly prompted me to start my blog.
If you could give one piece of advice to aspiring sex bloggers/podcasters/writers/erotic creative types, what would it be?
Be consistent with your work and always look for a way to create a conversation about a topic you’re currently working on.
The way we talk about sex and relationships has changed a lot over the last decade – what changes do you hope to see in the next 10 years?
I hope we never have to deal with slutshaming in the next 10 years, it’s dying down but hopefully in a decade it’ll be something that women never have to deal with again.
Oloni’s Eroticon talk
Oloni’s session will touch on why women are still faking orgasms and why she decided to stop lying about achieving hers to discussing open relationships in a society that’s mono obsessed. Does a hall pass work? Or is it a recipe to a disaster?